That’s right I said it.
And I’ll say it again.
And do it in a very uncomfortable way.
You wanna be a writer? No. Screw that. Do you write words? Yes? Do you tell stories? Yes? Then you’re a writer.
A very good friend of mine has been writing for a few years. She’s much younger than I am, and she has been seriously struggling with self-esteem when it comes to her writing. She has been convinced that she is no good despite evidence to the contrary. Self-doubt has been eating away at her and discouraging her for almost as long as I’ve known her.
She sent me a message today:
“Guess what? I’m a really fucking good writer.”
I had to ask what changed and she just said that she decided to believe in the hype that everyone was telling her. She finally said fuck the self-doubt that was plaguing her this entire time.
If I wasn’t busy at the time I’d have danced around cheering and popping champagne for her.
I know the feeling. I know the nagging horribleness that is self-doubt. (As I’m writing this I’m actually sitting here struggling with some self-doubt over choices I have made recently and am worrying about what my works are gonna do in the future etc. blah blah blah.) It’s not a good feeling, at all.
Get confident, my friends. And fuck that self-doubt.
Remember: writing is never permanent. You can ALWAYS polish. You can ALWAYS improve. Your first draft is never gonna be a shiny diamond, and a good story is a good story no matter how poorly written it is. That’s what editing is for.
So fuck that self-doubt and get back out there and keep going.
Because no one else is gonna tell your story, except you.
Tell me: what’s your biggest self-doubt and how do you overcome it?